Forgiveness

Let’s be honest, we all have those things hidden away inside of ourselves that haunt us. We have all been hurt at one time or another, our hearts have been broken, trust violated, apologies that were never made.

Forgiveness is never easy. We as humans tend to collect hurts, and if we aren’t careful we can end up using those hurts as a wall. We convince ourselves that the wall is there to protect us, that it will keep the bad people out. It may, but it also keeps the good people out, and traps us inside of our own sorrows.

Humans are… well… human. Everyone will most likely disappoint us at some point or another in our lives, some more than others. When we refuse to forgive them, we often think we are punishing them, but we are really only punishing ourselves.

Forgiveness isn’t about the other person at all, it isn’t letting them of the hook, it isn’t allowing them to get away with anything. It is simply setting yourself free. This is where it seems we get hung up the most.

We think that forgiving them means they are no longer responsible for their actions. In reality forgiving them just means you are no longer taking responsibility for their actions. You are in effect handing that responsibility back to them and moving on with your life.